Stop talking bad about yourself
Avoid Making Negative Comments to Yourself
Rare is the person that doesn't run themselves down once in awhile. God knows I have. As a matter of fact, I used to be, really good at it. Before I became an enlightened person I frequently admonisted myself for doing what I called stupid things. Not only did I rant and rave with words about my short comings, I also used hands, feet and other objects to reinforce my negative feelings to myself. Now don't get me wrong, most of the time, I acted in a rational way. But I did have my moments. This inappropriate behavior was generally only observed when I was alone and I am greatful for that.
Be Cautious Your Mind Remembers
Now here's the tragedy about this kind of behavior. Its just not good for you. By doing this your selling yourself a big bag of junk that's going to haunt you for the rest of you life; if you don't do something about it. When we say to ourselves by our words and gestures that were in some way disfunctional, that's sending a negative message to our brain. And this lowers the value we think of ourselves. Also if you have children, you will probably pass this behavior off on them. And that's not a good habit to teach your children. Children need postive role models and this isn't one of them.
Be Positive and Keep Trying
Hanging wall paper and plumbing have been huge challenges for me. If you don't beleave me ask my wife. Let me share an example with you about what I'm talking about. One time my beautiful wife decided we should change the wall paper in our bedroom. I apparently missed that meeting, when that decision was made. But like a dutiful husband and a confident man I engaged the challege with love in my heart and wellness in my head. This wonderful experience started early in the morning and ended just prior to the chime of midnight. During this glorious adventure I quit at least twenty times and belly acked a like amount of times. Each time I threatened to stop; my wife dangled a carrot in my face and said with the patience of Jobe that we were almost done; just one more thing to do. I knew she was fugging the truth because she kept saying that phase over and over again. To show you how desperate I was I even threated to call her Mother and tell her how poorly I was being treated by her daughter.
I Can't Shouldn't be in the Dictionary
I can't begin to tell you how many times I told my wife I can't do this; its to hard, I dont know what Im doing, I have a back ache and my shorts are creeping up my hinney.
Medicine Comes in Many Forms
Findly we finished, cleaned up and I quickly imbraced the medicine of my fore fathers. A shot of Scotch and a beer chaser. All was well in my brain.
All kidding aside, say nice things to yourself and feel better. That's my story and I'm sticking to it.
Don L. Terrill
photo by amyrod
Posted by Don L. Terrill at 9:01 PM